My children have been wearing my nerves rather thin in the way they treat each other. It seems that someone is usually intentionally doing something to vex someone else. Thus we have a lot of fighting and bickering going on.
I have been pondering and praying on what to do about this, and have recently been trying to focus on the positive. This morning I told my kids that tonight I would make something sweet for those who try to be sweet today. I then defined what I meant by sweet, and that they didn't need to be perfect, but they needed to try.
Cinderella was really positive today. She tried not to yell or scream at her siblings, she helped me when she saw that I could use the help, and she tried to be kind. She had a few times that she slipped up, but overall she did really well.
The other kids however didn't seem to care enough. Maybe they are just too young to remember that long. I tried to remind them, but they kept nagging and aggravating one another and me.
So tonight after getting the other kids to bed, I made a milkshake for Cinderella. While we were eating our milkshakes, she told me, "I want to be like today everyday. Even if I don't get a treat!" I thought "Yes!" Her day made a positive impression on her. Enough that at the moment she wants to try to be like this every day.