Wednesday, July 31, 2013
I have been pondering and praying on what to do about this, and have recently been trying to focus on the positive. This morning I told my kids that tonight I would make something sweet for those who try to be sweet today. I then defined what I meant by sweet, and that they didn't need to be perfect, but they needed to try.
Cinderella was really positive today. She tried not to yell or scream at her siblings, she helped me when she saw that I could use the help, and she tried to be kind. She had a few times that she slipped up, but overall she did really well.
The other kids however didn't seem to care enough. Maybe they are just too young to remember that long. I tried to remind them, but they kept nagging and aggravating one another and me.
So tonight after getting the other kids to bed, I made a milkshake for Cinderella. While we were eating our milkshakes, she told me, "I want to be like today everyday. Even if I don't get a treat!" I thought "Yes!" Her day made a positive impression on her. Enough that at the moment she wants to try to be like this every day.
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
Lately I have been paying attention to sense of smell. I have found that when my house smells nice, I am more productive, and want my house to be cleaner. So if I have a scented candle burning, or the windows open, with a fresh breeze blowing through, some fragrant cut flowers in a vase, or even the smell of some cleaners, I tend to work more and feel more productive.
I have noticed however comparing yesterday with today, that having a candle burning I get a more positive response than just having a scented wax melt on a warmer. The scented wax melts tend to irritate my nose and sometimes give me a headache, at least the first time I melt a new cube. After that cube has been on the warmer a while the scent isn't so strong, and doesn't seem to bother me as much. I don't know if this is true for all scented wax cubes, or just this particular brand. I will have to try some other brands, and scents and see what the results are.
Monday, July 29, 2013
I then proceeded to clean the boys room, the living room, the family room, and vacuum the family room. For me that is awesome and amazing. I even had down time to play around with kids, and do my own thing some.
Oh and I took some pictures of the work we have done recently on our garden. Thought I would share them.
Sunday, July 28, 2013
Saturday, July 27, 2013
Friday, July 26, 2013
Thursday, July 25, 2013
The kids have a tendency to leave things behind the car, and even though I hadn't seen anything there I figured I had better go out and check. When I checked I didn't see anything, but noticed that the wooden beam that goes in between the cement pads in our drive way was sticking up a little bit, and figured I had bumped it. Well I got back in the car, and started backing out again. I went down over the curb, and knew I heard something. But knowing there hadn't been anything there before, I figured there must be something in the trunk bumping around, and I kept driving.
However when the front wheels hit the same spot, I knew I felt something. I got out and sure enough, Spike's bike had been run over. The thing was ruined. I felt bad, but what can you do at this point? I went, picked up the bike, and headed to the dumpster to throw it away. While I was walking my shoe caught the wooden beam that was sticking up, and I went sprawling.
I bruised my jaw, my right arm, elbow, hip, hand, and skinned my knee. My head was throbbing, and I felt quite beat up. I didn't move, because I wasn't sure how easily I could get up without falling again. Then I heard the hubs calling my name in a frantic voice. I didn't mean to scare him. I answered calmly that I was alright, and told him what had happened. He then helped me up, and I assessed the damage. With my head throbbing the way it was, I didn't feel comfortable with the thought of driving off by myself some where, so the hubs took the kids with him to a neighbors house for a bit, and I got a bath and a little bit of down time.
I wonder how sore I will be in the morning.
Wednesday, July 24, 2013
Tuesday, July 23, 2013
I think this gave Guy plenty of time to do his jobs. However when I went and found him he was laying on his unmade bed, half way dressed, and showing no signs at finishing getting dressed. So I grabbed a shirt, and helped him get it on. At this point he started throwing a fit, and telling me he wanted to do his jobs himself. I told him it was too late for that, he had missed his opportunity, and how I was going to help him so we could go. We finally made it out the door about 10:40ish.
15 minutes later we get to the garden only to find out that Cinderella left her flip flops at home, and is barefoot. We were supposed to meet the hubs for lunch around 12, and I knew it would take about 30 min, to get home and back again. So we had a change of plans. Part of me wanted to bag the whole thing, however some of the kids had worked really hard this morning and deserved their reward. So we went home, got the shoes, and then joined the Hubs for lunch. After lunch I took the kids to the garden. I told the kids that any fighting, complaining or not following rules and we would go home.
The first activity at the garden is Noah's Ark. They have a large ark, that sprays water out of it, and is a fun splash pad for kids. So Guy had to sit this one out. The other kids had fun though.
Monday, July 22, 2013
She was my father's mother and one of the sweetest ladies I know. She was the kind of lady who would give you the shirt off her back if she felt like you could use it more than her. She loved to serve people. She loved having her family around her. While I was growing up I remember going to her house for many a holiday. Thanksgiving dinners, Halloween Parties, Birthday Parties, Christmas, 4th of July, etc.
She would often make salads, and invite everyone over. We would play games like "Pretty Bird in My Cup", and "Meow, Kitty Meow." I think she enjoyed interacting with the children as much as the adults. When I was young if my parents ever needed to leave us long enough that they needed someone to watch us, my memories are always of being at Grandma's house.
Grandma was so thoughtful of others. I remember one point in time one of my older cousins was living at my Grandparents house. I don't remember if he was going to school in the evenings or working, but I do remember that she felt it so important that he have a good home cooked meal, and because he wouldn't be there at dinner time, she always made a big meal for lunch. The times that I happened to be there at lunch time during that time period I remember big meals like roast and mashed potatoes, and spaghetti. Oh and she always served cool aid.
Grandma didn't have a lot of toys at her house. There were a few from when my dad and his siblings were younger, but not many. However, I remember always having fun. When I was probably about 8, my mom enrolled my older sister and me in swimming lessons at the high school near my Grandma's house. I remember a few times that Mom dropped us off at Grandma's and then she would walk us over to swimming lessons. One of these times, I was heading into the locker room, right as someone was coming out. The door swung out so suddenly that it caught me by surprise and whacked me in the head. It hit so hard that I got a goose egg. I remember sitting in the hallway with Grandma, and she bought a can of Sprite from the soda pop machine, and put it on my head, while we waited for my sister to finish swimming lessons that day.
My Grandfather passed away just over 11 years ago. After he died, Grandma just wasn't the same anymore. She started forgetting a lot of things, and being quite absent minded. After a while she became unable to take care of herself, and moved in with my parents. I was married by this point in time, so I wasn't living there. But I remember when I would go visit my parents, and how my Grandma loved to play with Cinderella, who was a baby at the time. Grandma always loved my kids. Even as her memory started to fade even more, she always seemed to remember the kids, and brighten up when they were around. My aunts would tell me she would point out pictures of my kids from e-mails, and tell them stories about the kids. I don't know if she ever really got to know any of them except Cinderella and Guy though. By the time Aurora was born, Grandma was pretty much gone. It was hard to see her vibrant personality slip away, and I have to admit, that I am guilty of not going to visit her much in the last few years, especially after she moved out of my parents house into a care center. It was too hard. I wanted to remember my Grandma how she was, not just a shell. I know I will miss her, but I am glad she is now out of that body that wasn't really working any more. I am glad she can be with my Grandpa again, and I know that if I live righteously I can see her again, and that she is part of my FOREVER family.
I love you Grandma!
Sunday, July 21, 2013
Cinderella was having a bad attitude all morning, and then when we got to church, and I guided the kids up onto the stand, she started crying, and trying to hide. I took her out and talked to her, she told me she got afraid when she was up there, and then she was embarrassed that all those people could see her crying. Poor kid, it took a lot of coaxing to get her to even come back into the chapel. I finally got her to come in after the sacrament.
This got me thinking about times that I have been embarrassed, and how we all get embarrassed some times. But over all I think it is when we swallow our pride, and try not to worry about what others think of us, that we can get over our embarrassment and live our lives the way we want to.
Cinderella is quite shy, in some ways. She has a hard time reaching out to others, and wants others to reach out to her. When they don't she feels like they don't like her. Hmmm, sounds a lot like me.
I think she is nervous for this next school year to start, because she is afraid she won't have any friends. There is also a girl that she had a hard time with a lot last year, who is in her class this upcoming year, and I think she is really nervous about it. I wish I could help her not worry about what others think about her, but I haven't mastered that myself yet.
How about you?
Saturday, July 20, 2013
The girls however had bunk beds, but lately have decided to sleep together in the same bed most nights. So the hubs had an idea that we could give them the queen sized futon, that they can share and give the bunk beds to the boys. So today we set about moving beds.
When I started moving the first mattress from the girls room to the boys room, Spike saw what I was doing and got VERY excited. He followed me in, and by the time I brought the second mattress in, he had the first one arranged on the floor and was putting pillows and blankets on it.
While putting the beds together, we discovered that one of the nuts had broken, I was concerned about the stability of the bed without the nut, seeing as how it was on the bottom bunk. The hubs wasn't too concerned, but agreed to humor me, and we set up the beds as twin beds instead of bunks. Guy was disappointed that the beds weren't bunks, but I told him he he could prove to be responsible with his bed, then maybe sometime later we can make them into bunk beds.
Later in the day, after the boys had had their baths and were in there pj's, Spike was having a melt down. The hubs decided to just leave both boys in their room, for the time being. The boys were being quite wild in there, and when the hubs went to check on them found that they had pulled all the bedding of one of the beds, as well as the mattress. He about carted off the bed there and then, but after we talked about it, we decided to talk about it with the boys and then give them another chance. We will see how they do.
The girls on the other hand, Cinderella seems to love her new bed, but Aurora isn't too keen on the idea of having to sleep with Cinderella., only time will tell how that one will end up.
Here is a picture of how the girls room looks now. The hubs took it for me, and we didn't have the idea of taking the pictures until after the boys had destroyed their beds again, so I don't have any pictures of their room.
Friday, July 19, 2013
Didn't do much around the house today, but at least the morning was busy.
Went on a date with the hubs tonight. We went for a long walk and had smoothies. It was reminiscent of when we met and our first summer together.
Thursday, July 18, 2013
I also got a lot done today. The kids spent a bunch of the afternoon playing quietly, and I was able to get caught up on laundry and bake some bread. My bread turned out rather flat. I need to practice more, I haven't made bread for at least a year. But hey, I got it made.
Wednesday, July 17, 2013
The thing is, he eats all the time. He still eats about every 2 hours. Sometimes he is done in 5 min. but if he is tired he will sleep eat and sometimes go for an hour. I don't think my milk supply is lacking, because I still get engorged at times, but I am worried about what the pediatrician is going to tell me. I am afraid he is going to tell me to supplement, which will eventually lead to weaning earlier than I want. I have small kids, but usually they gain weight faster than this.
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
The kids had a ball. Spike was climbing all over the place, with no fear. I was amazed to see him head up the ladder for the biggest slide. They claim this slide is 3 stories tall, and I can believe it. He got to the top, but then wasn't so sure about coming down. I couldn't go and get him, because I had Baby strapped on in a baby carrier. So I send Guy up there after him. Well when Spike was scared to go down the slide, he decided to slide down where the ladder is. I found this hilarious, because the ladder is exactly like the slides (slope and length), it just has bumps along the middle to aid in climbing. He just slid down the side of it, so as to not hit the bumps. Silly boy.
I took some pictures but I am having trouble getting them onto my computer today, so I will have to add them later.
Being at this park reminded me of when we lived in Washington. At that point in time I just had 2 kids, and a bunch of other moms in my neighborhood would get out weekly and do play groups. Sometimes we would meet at peoples houses, but we would also go to parks, playgrounds, the zoo one time, and other fun locations for kids. Sometimes it would be places that were free, but other times it would be places that cost a little bit. The kids would run around and play, and us mom's would get a chance to talk and visit, while watching our kids.
Man, I miss that. I have tried a few times here with varying levels of success to get a group like that together, but overall I think the women here are too busy. This is kind of hard for me because I really miss the interaction with other moms. I know everyone has different needs, but for me interaction is one of my needs, and it needs to be interaction with someone other than my 5 children. The hubs often helps with this need, but he has had a bit more stuff on his plate lately, and it is hard to find time to talk.
Sometimes I have mistaken the lack of this need being met as a lack of friends. But I don't really think that is the case anymore. I have friends. Just most of my friends are in a different stage in life than I am .
The friends who have children who are all school age or older don't exactly do the play group kind of thing anymore. You might get your kids together for a play date, however the mom's don't usually sit around and visit while the kids play. And my friends who have children who are all preschool and baby age, don't really have much for my older kids to do, if we were to come over. And the few friends I have who have school age, and preschool age children, just seem to be really busy. I have tried to put out a general invite to people on Facebook or such but that doesn't get any results. I probably need to be more specific and contact certain people and say "Hey, lets get together." But then I feel like I am being really needy and annoying. That, and it doesn't seem like invitations are ever reversed, it seems like I am the only asking. This makes me worry that people don't really want to do things with me, they are just to polite to say no.
I know I am a worrier, and probably most people would love it if I called them up, or stopped by. But what if they don't. What if while I am sitting there visiting with them they are silently thinking "Will she ever leave? I've got things I've got to do... She is so annoying, I wish she wouldn't come over, but I can't be rude and tell her that."
Any advice? I have probably asked this before, sorry if I tend to drone on in the same topics repeatedly.
Monday, July 15, 2013
Sunday, July 14, 2013
Saturday, July 13, 2013
Friday, July 12, 2013
Thursday, July 11, 2013
Towards the end of the school year when Guy and Cinderella were talking to each other about things that had happened at school Aurora would start making up things that happened at "her" school. I could tell she was trying to find a way to include her self with the older kids. However they quite often place her with the babies, and exclude her , telling her she isn't old enough for something. I am sure this is quite frustrating for her and is at least part of what started her acting out.
Lately she has a hard time leaving my side. She doesn't like to go to primary and fights me, screaming when I leave her. She fights going to bed, hurts anyone else when they try to play with Baby..... She is getting to be down right mean.
Today she was getting into some toys she knew she wasn't supposed to be playing with right then, pointed out she was doing something wrong, and then asked me if she was being a "nasty girl". I don't know where she is getting these ideas, and I am afraid she is starting to get pleasure out of being bad. And trying to get attention for being bad. I try not to give her lots of attention for it, but at the same time, I need to enforce consequences.
Any suggestions on what to do with a middle child, or a child going through a rebellious faze, or just wanting to belong and being mean to get what they want? (Did that even make sense?)
Wednesday, July 10, 2013
Today I discovered the secret to being supermom. Focus on what go accomplish, not on what you don't. If you look at what you are able to do you will feel amazed. If you look at all you fail to do then you feel overwhelmed.
Today I cleaned one room, got laundry caught up, got all of the luggage unpacked from our trip, and picked apricots, made baby food, and apricot nectar.
Not bad eh?
Tuesday, July 9, 2013
The company I call when I have problems with my A/C is open for business at 8 in the morning. This morning I called at 8:04. They told me they could send a technician on Friday. I wanted to cry. The thought of living in a 90 degree house for 4 days was overwhelming. My house is in a major state of disarray, and I had the hardest time being motivated in this oven to do anything.
This evening I received a call that they could send someone this evening, thankfully he was able to fix the A/C, and now our house is in the process of cooling down. Hopefully tomorrow I will have more motivation to get my house in order.
The day to end our vacation has come. Both the hubs and I are so ready for this to be at an end, that we decided to drive the whole way in one day. We didn't get home until midnight, and our house is still really hot, but at least we are done being in the car and we are home.
Today we drove back to my father-in-laws house. The hubs ws feeling drowsy so he asked if I could drive. We switched spots, but getting back on the freeway, I didn't see the junction I was supposed to take, and not being familiar with the route, didn't catch it.
About 1/2 hour later, the hubs looks up and asked if I got the junction. Me thinking I had followed all the signs so far told him yes, he then said that it looked like we were still on the freeway. I told him that's because we were. He then looked at the map, and told me we are on the wrong road. Whoops. Thankfully there was a route we could still take without having to turn around, it just took longer.
Sunday, July 7, 2013
I think my children have too many toys. They get bored way to easy, and they don't seem to know how to enjoy the simple things in life.
Last night we went to watch fireworks. They were beautiful, but my children were bored. They needed to make a game out of it, which then led to fighting. When they weren't playing their game, or fighting, they were complaining.
There aren't a lot of toys at my fath-in-laws house, but there are some. However the children are quickly bored and want to watch a movie or play a videogame.
Today we ent to my sister-in-laws house, and admittedly she doesn't have much at her house for kids. She doesn't have much at her house at all. She os single, lives by herself and just recently moved back into her house. The people who had been renting her house trashed it, and it needs a lot of work. That is part of the reason we are visiting her.
So the hubs and my father-in-law have been working on the house, and I have been trying to entertain children. It is rather stressful, because it is so hot we have the doors open, and Spike keeps trying to make a break for it , down to the busy road in front of her house.
So I tried to send the kids to the backyard, they didn't know what to do. The yard is a junglenof plants and things. I could have had fun put there for hours when I was a kid.
I then took the kids to a park. They played for about 5 min. then said they were done. How can I help them develop their imagination?
We were so tired today. My father-in-law wanted to go up into the mountains where it was cooler, nit we were so tired, and didn't want to spend yet another day in the car, so we opted not to go. Instead we spent the day watching movies and taking naps. The hubs had another on-line interview this morning, and spent the day in a daze worrying about how he did.
Thursday, July 4, 2013
Today we took the kids out into my father-in-law's backyard and took some pictures, we also got a family picture. When I was packing I forgot that we were going to take pictures and didn't pack my makeup. I also didn't bring much to style my hair with, so I am not the most excited about how I look. Oh well, it's all about the memories right.
We had told the kids they could go swimming today. My brother-in-law found a large plastic stock tank, that he turned into a swimming pool.
However it has cracked, and when trying to fill it we discovered it wouldn't hold much water (depth wise). We suggested to the kids that we could take them to a park with a splash pad instead, but they didn't want to, they wanted to swim here. However, once getting out there, all Cinderella could manage to do was complain.
We finally came in and the kids played on the Wii. Later we are going to a 4th of July social, and then watch fireworks.
Well it was a nicer long day in the car today. Yesterday at the end of the drive the check engine light came on. So this morning the hubs did some research and discovered our coolant was almost gone. So he went to an auto parts store, bought some antifreeze had them reset the light (after checking to make sure that was really the problem.) We then were able to finish our drive with the car functioning properly, and the a/c being much more efficient. We made it to my father-in-laws house in one piece.
Now if I could just figure out how to help Spike to go to bed when we are somewhere other than home.
Wednesday, July 3, 2013
Today I discovered that spending a really hot day in a car makes people feel sick and ornery. We drove for about 6 hours, and the outside temperature was aroune 100 degrees. The children were grumpy, and antsy at moments, and there were a few moments when children said they had tummy aches.